a letter about Chinese women in China 6/19/2013 17:44
这个生养在美国的朋友在国内教了一年英语后,写了这么一段关于中国女人的婚恋观,这只是他本人的观点而已。


Chinese women in China are crazy! My love advice to them. It's lychee season.

Below is my love advice to Chinese women in China.

However, I must state two disclaimers before you read this:

DISCLAIMER #1: Chinese women in China are crazy. Dating is a different animal in China. Because of the one child policy in China, Chinese girls are cultural wired to get married as soon as possible. If they don't get married fast, they would be negatively labeled. PLUS! They face extreme pressure from their parents because since their parents can only have one child, and since China does not have 401k, IRA, retirement plans, or Social Security, these parents expect their child's husband to provide for their retirements! Marrying rich in China is expected. If the girl does not have a boyfriend by 22, then she feels like a loser. If she does not get married by 24, something is wrong with her. If she's not married by 27, then she's labeled as an outcast. If she's not married by 30, then she thinks no man would ever want her. The pressure is extreme in China. The running joke among foreigners here is that if you date a Chinese girl one month, she will want ask for marriage the next. Naturally, this scares off most foreigners. I must say not all Chinese girls in China are like this, but the majority of them are, especially if they are less educated. China is changing everyday.

DISCLAIMER #2: It's lychee season in Dalian. I don't know how that connects with anything above and below. But I've been eating lychee everyday. And studying Mandarin.

My advice on love: Love is about timing. When two people are ready, then love can happen. Most of the time, people have the wrong timing in life. One person might love a different person while the other is not ready to love. But we should not give up on love because of time. No. Just like we wait all winter for the flowers or the lychee to bloom, we must wait on love to test ourselves if our love is really real and to show others our love is real. Sometimes chasing love can be fruitless. But loving others is what makes us human. And not loving more is the greatest regret in life.
如此大的社会压力下,所谓的剩女好像还是越来越多, 没家庭社会压力只能更多。我不认为剩女不好,也不认为30岁算剩女,只是发现国内30岁的女人的确对自己没信心,而且很着急,这是个问题。俗话说饥不择食。

我看呢,早点抓紧终生大事没有什么错。 个人觉得一些老美没完没散地谈恋爱,不愿意做出承诺,也是joke. 不能顺着他们的思维,浪费青春啊。然而和一个相识一个月的外族人谈婚姻,是对自己的将来不负责任。温馨提示一下。
花溪 at 6/21/2013 13:05 快速引用
花溪 :
如此大的社会压力下,所谓的剩女好像还是越来越多, 没家庭社会压力只能更多。我不认为剩女不好,也不认为30岁算剩女,只是发现国内30岁的女人的确对自己没信心,而且很着急,这是个问题。俗话说饥不择食。

我看呢,早点抓紧终生大事没有什么错。 个人觉得一些老美没完没散地谈恋爱,不愿意做出承诺,也是joke. 不能顺着他们的思维,浪费青春啊。然而和一个相识一个月的外族人谈婚姻,是对自己的将来不负责任。温馨提示一下。

这英文是出自美国佬之手?
麦香村之老朱专栏 at 6/24/2013 00:21 快速引用
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